Friday, February 22, 2008

The Year Of Romance

The Year Of Romance

Romancing your hubby?
Is it about how you dress? Is it about what you say?
Can you have a good marriage without it?

Lots of questions--does anyone have the answers?

For years I thought romance was all about my husband giving me something. Those special days like Valentines or an Anniversary. There were some rude awakenings to the facet that an object in my hand did not make me necessarily feel like my heart had been touched.
I think that is what romance is---those moments when your heart is touched.

To me, that is what romance is all about.....touching the heart. It is wooing someone.
For us married ladies-------that had better be our husbands. ;)

So how do I/we woo our husbands?
Well, I think this knowledge can come to us in several ways.
Sometimes you can just ask.
Sometimes you don't have to--you see the reaction on their face.
Yes, you know what I mean!
They look like a school boy again!

And honestly there were times in our marriage, when things were not so great, I would sometimes withhold the things that I knew meant a lot to my man.
Romance and love.
Today, God gives me a good thump on the head (heart) when I am using manipulation
to make Keith pay.
Not a pretty picture.
No, perfection has not arrived.
Surprise! Surprise!
I spent our last vacation romancing my husband.
No, not by dressing up in some slinky dress and 4 inch heals.
Although that might have done it. :)

But this time, I romanced my husband by dressing up in manly clothes and hopping on the back of a four wheeler. Strange method or route to romance --but it works for him.
Makes me kind of think of----"grunt, man you woman.
Me want to take you to the woods. grunt! grunt!".
And no, my man does not look like that- but.......he might grunt occasionally. :)
"How was your day...grunt. Did you enjoy dinner......grunt."
So here I am......... looking oh so sexy for my husband.
Yes, I know don't laugh.Let there be truth in blogging----HOW!!!! is the above picture in any way s*xy???????

The above pictures is one of Keith's favorites-he took it of course. Not sure if he likes it because I was about to land on my patoot or if it is because it is a picture of my patoot. :0
Who will ever understand the mind of a man?
I guess only his Creator.
My husband has a crazy sense of humor.

So back to the trip that was oh so romantic for my man.
Now this trip was not my idea of romantic. But something happens inside when you do something for someone else's benefit.
The look on his face. Pure joy.
And I have to admit that I liked the look in his eyes. He was brimming over with love.
Giddy as a school boy.
I was--His Woman!
He was proud of me riding those hard manly trails.
He was proud to love me.

I have learned that although Keith does not have the same romance language I do----we both benefit when the others language is spoken.
Our hearts beat a little faster for each other and it reminds us why we love each other.

Both our hearts are touched!
That is romance.

For more posts on
The Year of Romance
go on over and visit the other women participating with Maria at Free To Fly.

Hope this makes sense my brain is still on overload.


Alisun@ABrookeInTheForest said...

This is very beautiful and I too have had those trips at deer camp with no water or showers, well ok river water, a kettle, and a wood stove can make a girl clean up pretty good. I know what you are saying and I agree we women need to feed their love language too.
Thanks for sharing and you do look good on a quad.

Halfmoon Girl said...

I loved this post Sharon. SO true. Nothing better than seeing their enjoyment when we take the time to get into their interests. I should ask my husband to go for a walk with me this weekend to look at building lots around the neighbourhood. He likes to think about stuff like that.

Edge of Design said...

According to your post and description on ways to romance your husband, then I would have to spar with mine. He is into Ultimate Fighting (Mixed Martial Arts) and I have my Brown Belt. Would make for an interesting evening of Romance followed closely by a trip to the Emergency Room.

Denise said...

So very true, thanks for sharing this.

Myra said...

Have a great weekend!

freetofly said...

Tee-hee! I think Keith & Jerry ARE brothers! You have NO idea how much this is my husband's forte' as well.

You nailed a great aspect of Romance - which is to be able to serve them through enjoying them on THEIR turf, & not making it all about them coming to us. Our culture says its all about what WE need and what WE can get, but, that never satisfies. It truly is "more blessed to give than receive" and that school boy look is worth more than diamonds, isn't it?

P.S. I too use to think it was about what he should/could do for me. I cringe to think about the mentality I had for a while. It was long ago, but, yikes! So glad it's in the past!

Great post! So glad you had fun with your Honey!


SunnySusan said...


Maybe I would have to sit on Paul's books

J/K I do like the delight in his eyes when we are on his playing field....just like a schoolboy is right.

Pastor Lisa said...

What a beautiful post Sharon.

Melanie said...

I know that I need to work more on romancing my hubby for sure.

Mary said...


This is a wonderful post. If Keith thinks you look sexy riding a four wheeler that is terrific. I'm glad you do it for him and I hope he does things that you find romantic.

One time I went out with a fella that thought any woman who rode a motorcycle was sexy. I did ride a motorcycle when I was in my twenties. I didn't work out but we did have a lot of fun on our bikes.

I love all the photos you've shown us of your trip. I'm glad you could get away for a while. Enjoyed this post.

Thanks for the comments on my S&T Friday post. Michelle is doing fine. Thanks also for the prayers and support.


freetofly said...

Sharon, I see you found your award at Karen's! Congratulations you Woman with Blogging Purpose! :)

That's the only reason I did not include you, I knew Karen had given it to you! She beat me to it!

But, I am working on a bullet, I mean an award you can't dodge! :)

luvmy4sons said...

You are one awesome wife! Love comes in all forms! Great post!

luvmy4sons said...

I gave you an award! You are such a Joy to read!

Cahleen 何凱琳 said...

I think you have a cute patoot! +)

Tiffany said...

I have been looking for how to describe romance. I think you nailed it! Romance is when your heart is touched- a wooing! I love that!

Karen said...

I keep coming back to this post, because I love it so much. The way you wanted to bless hubby, all the things you did. I just love it!

Nicki said...

Oh my word! That was great!! I loved those pics!! I was laughing so hard with the one of you bending over!!